I remember one time I was heartbroken getting advice from an older friend of mines; it was the second or third time in my life and this time I thought, “I did everything in my power to keep everything going right”.

So what did I do wrong? His advice was sound but clichéd at times, until he said to me, “Be glad you got out of that relationship while still having your balls, your soul and your sanity. You look at the streets, most bums… most bums are bums because their story traces back to a woman.”

A lot of people won’t believe it (or understand why) but I can personally vouch for that. Most bums, those who have mentally given up on the need to stay UP and fight through friction are there because their story traces back to love.

The first story of betrayal or rather deception by a woman is Adam and Eve. Eve screwed up and therefore made Adam eat from the apple too (and God conveniently only came after).

I know it’s a bible story but it cuts me from having to explain a whole lot, and it gets me to this point quicker, it wasn’t Eve’s fault for Adam eating the apple, it was Adam’s fault. Adam let it happen, Adam chose to eat it, Adam’s story is the metaphorical foretelling of our stupidity for years to come.

Sadly, most of us men will do anything for the idea or the thought that we can have sex with a woman that we haven’t sexed yet. Most of us men will do more than anything for the thought of feeling secure, wanted and or loved by a woman, most of us will lose our balls, our dignity, sell our soul and even our sanity for that reason, and these bleak endings are all through a series of choices that we made that led us to that point where we became so open we got owned.

“What did I do to get here?” That is very important, it should be a question we should ask about many aspects of our lives, I got there because I let it happen and by aligning the road maps to all my heartbreaks I found similar paths followed by me, and the gravest one was putting women on pedestals… not all pretty women belong on pedestals.

I will go as far as to say that no women belongs there except for the one who gave birth to us… by no means does this mean that we treat our women like shit, it just means we respect them without losing our own grounds, even if they have to cry, bitch, throw temper tantrums or a hissy fits… even if they have to (or want to) leave us, then so be it.

That’s not saying that we have to be emotionless about the loss, a loss is still a loss regardless, and in most instances losses are defined by the loser, and with that said, how you define that loss is yet another choice.

In any case, losing the woman you love is in my opinion an extreme situation which she may use on you for self-serving and spiteful reasons like control. Never have I seen a woman who threatened this actually follow through with it when I agree with her leaving.

In the end the picture that I’m trying to leave men with is that to her, we were men about it, and as life goes on, it will be about that moment, the moment a woman can come to you and look UP to you and respect you for being a man.

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